1.她开始显得格外关心和关注你，尤其是那些她以前没有投入过任何注意力的方面。这可能是因为在背叛发生的最早阶段，她会有所察觉，但为了维持现状或避免冲突，她会用这种方式来补偿。2.莫名其妙地开始给你买礼物，这通常不是她的风格。她可能通过这样的行为试图缓解内心的不安，或是想要证明自己仍然在乎这个关系。3.她突然变得喜怒无常，经常没事找事，无论你做什么她总是能挑出毛病。这可能是一种逃避现实的心理状态，当面对自己的情感时，她不愿意直面真相，所以选择了攻击性地表现出来。4.她的某些行为让你感到困惑，虽然具体原因不易明了，但你的直觉告诉你事情并不对劲。在这种情况下，最好相信自己的感觉，因为它们往往比意识更为敏锐。5.只要一提到分手或任何与离开相关的话题，她就马上提及问题，并且不会提供解决方案。她可能已经准备好了离婚的念头，只等着一个合适的时候去实施。6.当你计划离开，即使只是一段短暂的时间，比如出差、旅行之类，她就会表现得异常兴奋，而这并非真正欢送的情绪，而是一个表面的假象。她可能正在寻找机会去实现自己的计划。7.变得冷漠，不爱说话也不爱交流。但是在此之前并未发生任何争执或不愉快的事情。这反映了她的内心世界已经被其他想法占据，使得与他人沟通变得困难。

8.品味突然变化，如开始倾向于不同的音乐、电影或者书籍，以及对曾经忽视的事物产生兴趣，如娱乐明星或宠物动物。这表明她已经从外界接收到了新的刺激和影响力，从而改变了原有的生活习惯和价值观。

9.自信 suddenly emerges, even if there is no other apparent reason for her to feel this way, such as a raise or promotion at work.

10.she begins to pick on you and directly says "I hate it when..." etc.

11.she starts to show more interest in your appearance, clothes, and grooming.

12.she becomes overly protective of your relationship, almost possessive.

13.her behavior becomes increasingly erratic and unpredictable.

14.she seems distant and disconnected from the relationship.

15.she stops initiating conversations or shows less interest in talking about important issues related to the relationship.

16.her body language changes - she avoids eye contact or seems nervous around you.

17.the frequency of intimate moments decreases significantly without any explanation from her side.

18.she starts questioning your commitment level by constantly asking questions like "Do you really love me?" or "Are we meant to be together?"

19.the quality of communication deteriorates - she talks more than listens; defensive when questioned; dismissive of concerns raised by you

20.her emotional availability declines as she withdraws herself emotionally from the relationship while maintaining an outwardly loving facade