今天你养成了习惯，它们正在慢慢长大，竟然开始养你了！是时候引领这些习惯走向励志成功的道路了吗？

习惯影响一生

我国古代教育家孔子曾说：少成若天性，习惯成自然。也就是说，小时候养成的习惯，就像人的天性一样自然、坚固。从小接受怎样的文化教育，会为一个人奠定最初的思想与性情，长大后就会在其内心留下相应的影响，以至于以后的方方面面都由小时候的习惯所支配。

近代教育家叶圣陶曾给教育下过这样一个定义：什么是教育？简单一句话，就是养成良好的习惯。

人自幼就应该通过养成性教育，去形成一种好的habits对人的一生都具有深远的影响。

从小应养成为好habits

懂得感恩，不仅感恩父母的养育之恩、老师的教导之恩，还要感恩大自然赐予我们一切美好的东西。滴水之恩，涌泉相报。

心地善良、礼貌待人、助人为乐、行善积德。不以善小而不为，不以恶小而为之。

诚实守信、勇于担当，说到做到，不坑蒙拐骗。光明磊落坦坦荡荡直面问题敢于承担责任，不推卸不逃避。

勤学好问钻研难题热爱学习，不耻下问碰到难题不退缩不放弃认真钻研请教他人直到弄懂为止。

知之为知之不知为不知，是知也热爱阅读独立思考尽早养成阅读的habits边读边思考形成自己的思想。

幼儿期可以在父母陪同下翻阅绘本讲故事，在幼小的心里种下想象种子；识字后可以阅读简单动漫故事背诵中国古典诗词国学经典等最初获得文学基础将滋润一生；小学中段后可进行独立阅读内容可包括但限于科普读物天文地理中外历史经典名著名人典故等。

锻炼身体吃苦耐劳身体是本钱锻炼身体重要无需多言关键要能坚持，无论炎热寒冷都要持恒。培養吃苦耐劳品质和坚强意志受益终身。

善观察热爱生活对身边事物充满热情好奇认真观察思考勇敢探索未知领域热爱生活兴趣广泛大胆尝试享受美丽追求美丽享受美丽。

重视劳动分担家务掌握基本生活技能帮家里分担力所能及家务如收拾玩具书籍整理房间扫地拖地洗碗擦桌等等。

父母需要做些什么？

既然孩子habitual如此重要，那么父母应该如何帮助孩子建立良好habitual呢？

抓住关键期自从奥地利动物心理学家洛伦兹发现动物行为发展关键期并荣获诺贝尔奖后人类广泛开展了自身各种能力行为发展关键期研究—研究发现孩子habitual nurtured有一个关键时刻的问题幼儿园小学培育生活habitual 学習habitual中学改造habitually要使孩子建立一种good habit parents一定注意第一次出现behavior发生时 kids不会道德驱使只是觉得funny这时候kids会观察parents或其他对自己behavior反应如果态度冷淡严肃kids明白大人喜欢我的这种行为由此他减少这种behavior

如果这时有赞扬夸奖或者高兴笑响 kids觉得自己的行为受到喜欢由此增加这种behavior频率从而建立bad habit因此 parents一定注意抓住education key period来educate children重在预防parental意识引导child habituals任何事都是重在预防如果you年轻的时候能够有意识进行引导让child from small just establish good habitual 不会再苦恼因为 child already have bad habits

反复强调 parental consciousness raise child awareness of good habitals child in yearling time against good/bad habitual no concept this need parental conscious guide process repeatedly towards child emphasize importance of good habitals only when deep understanding of importance will mainactively reinforce such a good habital avoid appearing with it unsuitable bad habital.

榜样示范 parent should use own good habil to infect children children all possess imitative psychology whenever things or people arouse his curiosity he will imitate parent should in behavior manner speech etc give an excellent model for the children.

淡化批评 parental learn tolerance towards children's bad habilts some unwholesome habits are not on purpose but out of instinct reflex “” formation at certain circumstances like saying dirty words to avoid mom scolded by lying saying cat dog broke vase this is due to kid's natural reflex this time don't need severe criticism but remind kid be more careful next time and if praised or smiling reaction from adults kid feels uneasy and unwillingly change so they can reduce frequency of that behavior and eventually form a new better one thus avoiding further trouble while maintaining their self-esteem.

暗示 methods used in education make subtle suggestions through actions rather than explicit orders as when doing homework dawdling around playing games jumping up down the house turn off TV take out book read quietly beside them feel bored ashamed stop playing start reading learning thus making changes without resistance achieving better results persistently hold fast to what you believe no matter how long it takes 21 days for forming a new habil however correcting bad ones needs longer duration therefore perseverance is required parents must have patience continue cultivating positive behaviors correct negative ones persistence leads to success these valuable habits ensure lifelong benefits