我很喜欢的一部电影，名字叫《胜者为王》。饰演的女主角在电影里，优秀，漂亮，收入独立，生活独立，可以说是现代男人眼中行走的荷尔蒙了，但就这么优质的她，也是父母口中的大龄单身女。

如此优秀的女孩，身边并不缺乏追求者，可她依旧单身，直到遇见那个让她为之心动的人。

整部电影里我印象很深的是，在电影里说：“我这个人啊，折腾了这么久，就是死心不了。无论我告诉自己多少次，放弃吧，我这辈子就是遇不到一个爱我我也爱的男人，但是对于我来说，我一直渴望着有一个爱我的人可以跟我在一起，陪我走完这一生。

爱情一直是我坚持了这么久的原则，我为什么要妥协啊？”

I think this is why people choose to remain single – because we are all waiting for that one person who will make our hearts skip a beat and whom we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Until then, we choose to be alone.

Just like the line from the movie trailer: "For finding the right you, I choose to be alone."

Recently, I attended a friend's wedding and met many old classmates. The conversation topics were mostly about what they're doing now, how much they earn, whether they have a girlfriend or boyfriend, when they plan to get married... When they heard that my friend was still single at her age, everyone looked surprised as if being single at that age is something taboo.

Someone joked, "Why don't you find someone? There were so many boys chasing after you back in school; didn't any of them suit your standards?" My friend just smiled without answering. This made me think about how people define pursuit.

What does it mean by pursue? Is it taking someone out for dinner and watching movies or going shopping together on weekends? Or posting directly on social media saying he has money can keep me?

Why do more and more women choose singleness? Because excellent women understand that in this era where it's hard to find true love, wanting to throw away mediocre relationships for high-quality singleness is not easy.

Rather than talking low-quality love affairs not worth mentioning but settle down with someone who doesn't love me as much as I love him?

My friend posted on WeChat after the wedding: These years I haven't met someone truly pursuing me; those who say like me say love me but turn around also say like others love others. But I'm still single because I don't want compromise myself with someone who doesn’t like me living together forever.

I don’t need luck in romance; I just want one person who loves me back.

Each person choosing singleness has their own stubbornness and tenacity; imagine if we could only hold hands with an unwelcome lover walking down the aisle till death do us part! That would be even harder than sticking with singleness!

In today’s society every individual rushes through life - getting married having children - it seems everything should happen sooner rather than later. Perhaps they don’t know what liking means or what loving looks like - only thinking family doesn’t oppose them so decide hastily upon each other spending forever together

Perhaps we'll never meet our dream true loves because afraid of dying alone while choosing random partners instead

Even though we're amidst material desires flooding around us staying steadfastly becomes another oddity in eyes of others preferring pushing aside all unreliable romantic opportunities waiting for genuinely understanding heartmate

Ultimately throughout life name & wealth are fleeting clouds - what matters most is finding that one soulmate whom you'll stay until old age side by side

Maybe you too wish for an intimate companion sharing life's journey ahead seeing him always makes your heart race smiling seeing him smile imagining strolling hand-in-hand into old age scenes daily dreaming up conversations shared moments yet-to-come wishing & hoping...

Finally quoting my favorite lines from 'Youth' (movie) sending these words off:

"You must believe there will be someone in this world who truly loves you no matter how bright your light shines surrounded by applause nor solitary walks under raindrops big snowflakes nor scorching heat he’ll come holding full passion-filled gaze searching earnestly until reaching your side"

He’ll find you wait